| Phil & Theresia Vanmaele | ||||||||||||||||||||||||
| Love on the Net ... Dream or Reality? | ||||||||||||||||||||||||
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Both of us were single when me met online. We are not sure when we met for the 1st time, as we both lost track of each other. Towards en of November I was busy cleaning my ICQ address book ... and saw his name ... I added him again, wondering who PhilHD was. As I added him, he came online. And with a click of a mouse, we re-introduced each other again. He told me that he had already deleted me from his list! (OH NO!) Eventually, after asking the normal questions, we went into chat, and discovered that we had so much in common, and it just seemed so normal (?) that we "clicked" . 4 Hours later, we where pretty sure about where it was leading. Phil is 37 soon, and I just turned 35. We felt rather stupid, being adults, and not believing in this "net love" thing .... thinking it was J&B .. meaning junk and bullsh*t. But we continued speaking on a daily basis, wanting to know as much as possible about each other, yet scared to say what we where thinging. So it stayed platonic for some time. | |||||||||||||||||||||||
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Phil asked for a telephone number .... I was hesitant in giving it, not believing he would phone. But I gave it to him anyway. He asked my phone number, and I did not believe that he would really phone. Sunday .... Hieyaa .. guess what? He phoned, all the way from Belgium. It was amazing that he did call, and we spoke like we have known each other all our lives. It was great. Chatting and phoning brought us really close together. We both got scared, not knowing where this would end. But we could not stop having contact. He phoned me on the 2nd of Jan 99, and told me he has booked a ticket, his flight is landing on the 2nd of January 99 ... at 08:05 ..... | |||||||||||||||||||||||
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Follow the link to see what happened when we met and while he was here .... | Phil left on the 16th of January 99 ... and it broke my heart .... the last weeks has been the most diffcult time of my life. Not being together and missing him nearly killed me. It was so difficult to have the trust needed while he was gone. And phoning cost a fortune. At times, we where almost like strangers to each other on the phone. We had a few hardish words, but in the end it went well. We both went out, spending time with old friends. And having the trust that each other was being faithfull was not easy. On the 4th of February 99, Phil called, and he popped the big question, saying to me ... "Tess, I have asked this question twice before, and now again, will you marry me?" I was dumbstruck .... and in a total mess. And of course I said ....... YES. At the time, it souded like a business proposal, and we still laugh about that. A few days ago, I had serious doubts about him really loving me, and I phoned him. As per usual, he was busy and could not talk. I called again 3 hours later, and he was still busy. I broke down, cried and told him not to worry, and hung the phone up. He called back within 15 minutes, and I told him what I was feeling and thinking. He was such a darling, and got my insecurities vanished within seconds. And tonite, the 25th of February 1999, at 20:02, he is boarding his flight back home, back home to South Africa, to where he belongs ... with me. His flight lands Friday, 26 February 1999 at 10:10 am. He will be home, never to leave again. I am still astounded that anyone can love another person so much that he is willing to give up his family, (mom and dad), all his friends, leaving his business that he has built up over 14 years, to be with me.
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